Valuing One’s Unique Contributions Story

Do you question your self-worth because you don’t work at a FAANG company or make a certain amount of money?

A Staff engineer client with more than a decade of experience was “desperate” to get into a FAANGMULA company to gain “credibility” and feel they “provide value as a person.” This quest for validation led them to devalue both their impactful contributions to their current company and their worth as a human being.

This mindset strained other areas of their life too—like relationships with successful friends and their successful spouse. Before diving into job search coaching, we had to address their mindset first.

I gently asked: How can you show your value to a recruiter when you struggle to see it yourself? And how can you fully embrace your spouse’s love if you don’t love yourself?

They got emotional.

Through deeper conversations, we worked on separating their inherent value as a person from external validations like job titles or paychecks.

By reframing their current role, we uncovered the unique contributions and opportunities it provided, helping them appreciate their growth and impact.

This was just our first session, and we’d already tackled some deep challenges. I was anxious to know how they felt in our second session. Their response?

“Broke out of negative thought patterns.”

“[I] was devaluing myself due to current job… distortion was corrected.”

“Looking forward to more sessions and coaching.”

Over the next few sessions, we built a compelling narrative for their accomplishments and the confidence to pursue new opportunities. I’m excited for what’s ahead for them in the New Year!

As humans, our identity often becomes tied to external achievements, making it easy to lose sight of universal truths like our inherent value. An external perspective can help us correct these distortions and move forward with clarity and confidence.

Ready to shift your mindset and see your true value? Schedule a Call!